Guess what suffered? I found myself wanting to jump ship, start writing a new project because the first part of writing is like the first part of dating. We get all giddy and excited and want to tell everyone about the fun things we are discovering. But the writing relationship is really more like marriage than dating, and I've been married for 13 years, so I've learned a few things about how to keep a relationship strong. The number one issue is keeping the priorities where they belong.
I can commend myself for not having watched TV in a week or two. But I have found some fun games to play on my tablet and my phone when I could have been writing. I can excuse my lack of commitment to writing because of my new work schedule, but I work for 10 months out of the year, so that won't lead to a healthy relationship. I can make excuses all day long that are probably valid, but excuses don't make dreams come true.
This is the point of posts where people often post these ridiculous goals, like I won't go to sleep until I've written _____ words in a day. That's like my husband and I making a goal to go out to eat once a week without the kids. In a dream world, it would be nice, but that's not my reality.
The reality is that my marriage is still going strong because husband and I work through our frustrations, talk to each other, recommit SEVERAL times a year and learn how to stop making certain mistakes. Some of the mistakes take longer to figure out how to stop making. But we haven't thrown in the towel because the thing we have together is so much greater than that.
That's what needs to be said about our writing too.
What transitions have you gone through in your writing? How do you keep the relationship between you and your WIP strong?
I'm a teacher, mom, wife and writer. I love owls and run on Diet Coke, cinnamon bears and words.